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In a moment

April 9, 2015

On the precipice of time

Looking into the shadows of the past

Half-remembered moments that have become as false as dreams

I stare over the edge

The future seems to rise up and I buckle with vertigo

A fractured understanding won’t tell you what it means

The rocks slide under foot

Flailing wildly to maintain balance and composure

In a moment my entire life flashes in front of my eyes

The sliding rocks mark my significance

Time draws me over the edge and into the unknown

In a moment the past is just half-remembered dreams and lies

Tomorrow (excerpt from an old journal 02/17/13)

March 11, 2015

I sit on my bed and look at the mess I have made. Pushed by the wind, the blinds rise and fall against the window with a constant disharmonious banging.The floor is covered: dirty wrinkled clothes, sheets and blankets claimed by the cat, the soil of a dead orchid smashed under a towel at the edge of a pile of dirty towels. A paper cup in the window sill has begun to decay as the last inch of liquid seeps through leaving a ring in its place. The mattress has been pissed on by the cat. I tried scrubbing it with bleach. There is still a mark. Mugs of molding tea and coffee everywhere. Books are piled on magazines piled on junk mail piled on books. Paper plates and important documents are stacked one on the other. You can never be sure of your footing. Things have to be moved and stepped over. You are never stepping on level ground. This makes it a hassle to get up and do things. It makes it easy to lie down in my dirty bed. When I look up, I can see the walls with my neatly hung posters. If I look just right, it looks like everything under eye level could be clean, neat and organized. With ambitious dreams in my head, sitting alone on my bed, “Tomorrow,” I say.

No Time

January 4, 2015
clock

No time.

Make time.

How does one make time?

Sacrifice.

What must one sacrifice?

Time.

I don’t have any time for that.

Ain’t nobody got time for that.

[Author’s note: I didn’t have any time to write a post this week.]

I was wrong.

November 26, 2014

nocynicism

If you’ve read my blog before, you know that I have long struggled with cynicism, a debilitating condition that saps the color from life, creating a black hole that sucks the joy from everything around you and crushes it in the vacuum inside. Long-term effects include: hardened heart, chronic downerism, apathy, loss of friends, and irreversible loneliness. Knowing that there is no cure for cynicism, I have worked hard to manage my cynicism, through this blog and other mediums including a newfound interest in creating jewelry.

‘The world is a horrible place,’ I reasoned. ‘And it always will be. But that doesn’t mean I can’t try and see the best in it. And it doesn’t mean that I can’t at least try and make it better.’

I worked hard. A lot of the time it felt like pretending. Most of the time it felt like pretending. Looking on the bright side is a conscious decision to ignore the dark side, and ignoring things doesn’t mean they don’t exist. It means they go unguarded and unchecked. They have time to grow. I was never quite able to convince myself that it’s a wonderful world full of gossamer wings and cigarette trees. But one must do what one can. If life is to be a show, a play on a stage where one must pretend to be happy to keep the peace then so it must be. Pretending not to suffer from cynicism is almost as good as being happy, except without all the easy satisfied sleep.

And so I have lived: a cynic with an optimist mask. Naturally, being a cynic beneath the mask meant that I would most likely live my life alone, having only a small group of sympathizers, that I will hopefully call friends, as allies. Love as it is depicted in popular culture, movies, TV, books, video games, or online media and even historically, seemed to me to be a myth, an ideal that could not exist in the real world, like an honest politician. Scenes where a handsome couple shares a passionate first kiss under the moonlight while crickets serenade them on a warm summer night always ignored the ashtray taste of his mouth or her overwhelming need to fart.

The cynic never feels like an outsider. The cynic is convinced that everyone else is being insincere, pretending to know what they’re talking about, pretending to fall in love, pretending to be normal, pretending to like kombucha. The cynic is the only one who will tell the truth even if it means creating awkwardness. That smugness is chicken soup for the cynical soul. It makes the loneliness palatable.

I went to party at Matt‘s house. It was just another party full of the awkward one upmanship and stratification that accompanies social interaction: bad jokes, bad ideas and bad decisions. I ended up in a corner, sipping grappa and watching the uneasiness of life unfold. It was quite some time before I noticed that there was someone sitting at the other end of the couch. It was a not unattractive man.¹

“You live around here?” he said when he noticed me studying him.

“What?”

“I live upstairs,” he volunteered. “Matt and I came to an arrangement that he can have as many parties as he wants as long as I get to come to them.”

“Do you party a lot?”

“No more than the national average for my age and gender.”

“Probably a lot less, I would guess.” I turned to my grappa and watched the room move with people.

“I’m Paul.”

“Salomé.” We shook hands.

“I guess you’re parents weren’t huge fans of John the Baptist.”

I couldn’t help but smile. We fell into an easy banter and a half hour had passed before I knew it. Paul was pulled away by another partygoer. I kept him in the corner of my eye for the rest of the night. When Tiffany, who was my ride, was ready to go, he stopped me as I started toward the exit.

“Could I call you sometime?”

I gave him my number. It was weird. I had an immense feeling of elation. He was cute and funny and knowledgable. For a week my phone was glued to my palm. I checked for missed calls and texts more times than I will admit. I was beginning to get angry that this bum had awakened this strange unfathomable hope inside me, just to pull it away and crow, “Psych!” I was sullenly watching TV when the text alert sounded on my phone. It was Paul. Did I want to go for pizza on Sunday? Hope cried out excitedly inside me.

It was an eternity before Sunday came. We met for hipster pizza followed by rude hipster ice cream cones consumed on a walk through the park. The food was delicious. The moon was full. The summer night was warm. The crickets were playing their symphony. The conversation was charged with chemistry. He interrogated me like it was a job interview. I parried with feminine deftness, turning the questions on the questioner. We sat on the bench in the park. He slipped his arm around me with casual masculinity. There were long pauses where we stared into each other’s eyes, each of us trying to figure out what was happening. He walked me to my car. The city seemed to blur around us as we kissed for the first time. The moon was a smiling spotlight on our love. I drove home in a happy daze. The cynic could not be heard above my joyful trains of thought. There was a text waiting for me when I got home. We arranged a second date. By the end of the month, we were spending every waking moment together, desperately, hopelessly, and unbelievably in love.

That was over seven months ago. While I agree that it might be too early to say whether the relationship will last forever or not, I feel confident that it will.  The cynic inside me has been largely silenced. My cynic’s main claim to authority was her infallibility. But she was wrong about love, so completely wrong that it makes me question all her other claims. Maybe the world isn’t a horrible place with no hope of redemption. Maybe you can still meet the dark side but you can live in the light. Maybe there is a cure for cynicism.

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¹ A cynic’s description.

Back In The Saddle and An Announcement

November 5, 2014

Hello, friends. It has been too long. Life has a way of sneaking past you. You look away for a moment and when you look back you find several months have passed. I have always called this blog my “secret garden”, a safe place to be with my thoughts where I can ruminate on the doings of the world. I am still trying to find my place in it. My “secret garden” has become disheveled and lifeless with neglect. My only excuse is that life has a way of making you reexamine your priorities. Something can be as precious as gold one day and the next you wonder what you ever saw in it.

In the coming months, I plan on putting my garden in order: pruning the wayward thought, tending the fruit-bearing ideas and bringing life back to my blog, my “secret garden”.

One of the reasons that I have been away for so long is that I have been expending my creative energy elsewhere. I have recently discovered that I have a knack for creating jewelry and other odd artistic tidbits. I have been making pieces and giving them to my friends. I have been frequenting gem shops and craft stores and swap meets and etsy.com. It has become a new obsession. Like writing, I am not naïve to think I could make a living off of making jewelry, but I have decided that I am going to try and sell some pieces, if only so that I can continue to make more. I would love it if you could visit my shop∗ and see what I’ve made.

I promise this blog will not become a propaganda wing of my etsy shop and for those of you that enjoy my writing (all two of you), I have not given up on writing. There will be more in the coming months so watch this space. I still have a lot to say.

I was at the peak of my creative powers when I named it “By Salomé”:  https://www.etsy.com/shop/BySalome

“Reel America”

April 30, 2014

Coming this fall from the NSA, the creators of “PRISM”, is a new reality series that’s over two hundred years in the making: “Reel America”. Follow the lives of real Americans as the NSA tracks them through their daily lives. Using sophisticated surveillance technology, legal loopholes and corporate cooperation the NSA offers the most unguarded look into the lives of actual people. From illegal immigrants to senators, from CEOs to six-pack joes, and everyone in between, the spotlight knows no bounds. Viewers will get a glimpse into the most intimate moments of real American citizens, unfiltered and unedited. It has been called “a mirror that shows America her soul” by Director of National Intelligence James Clapper, and lauded by President Obama as bringing “transparency to the whole nation”. Critical reception is already split, with some calling it “necessary” and “eye opening” and others calling it “a gross violation” and “boring”. Premiering in September across all networks, “Reel America” promises to challenge and inspire.

Grappa and The Slip of the Tongue

February 13, 2014

I read recently about psychological pricing, the strategy of pricing things with 99 or 98 cent price points in order to trick the brain of the consumer into thinking they are spending less than they actually are, rounding down to the nearest dollar instead of up. I remember thinking to myself, ‘Fucking sheep. You’re not going to fool me with that crap.’

Tonight, I was drinking grappa with some friends. I told them “It’s only sixteen dollars a bottle,” even though I knew it was sixteen dollars and ninety-nine cents.

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